Dec 10, 2022
“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.” - J.K. Rowling
Guest Introduction:
Hello friend, Welcome to another episode of Exploring the Seasons of Life podcast.
I’m your host Cindy MacMillan, Integrative Life Coach and self-care advocate for women with a big heart on a spiritual journey who are ready to lead healthier and happier lives and improve their emotional well-being.
I interview coaches, spiritual explorers and thought leaders from all walks of life about beginnings, endings, and the messy bits in-between. Self-love, well-being, and mindset are at the heart of our conversations because once you change the inside, the outside will begin to change as well.
I’m really excited about today’s interview but before we jump in, I want to pause for a moment to thank you dear listeners for being here.
Today’s guest is Karin Nelson.
Karin Nelson is a divorce confidence coach helping women heal from their divorce while redefining their new life. Karin went through her own divorce 6 years ago after a 20-year marriage and has since reinvented herself. She is the host of the Becoming You Again Podcast and is a mom to 2 kids and 3 cats.
Welcome Karin. Thanks so much for coming on the show. I’ve been really looking forward to this conversation.
Here’s a glimpse of our conversation:
3:42 I really think that exploring the seasons of life means that like our life, our human life, just in general, for every human being is going to be ever changing, it is never going to stay the same, right? Sometimes it's going to feel like summer, and it's going to feel really fun and happy, and things will be going great. And then it might feel like winter where there's transitions and there's challenging things and it might seem a little darker and a little harder.
7:05 I was married almost 20 years and about six years ago, my husband and I were struggling in our relationship. And we were kind of in this stage of like, should we, or shouldn't we? And it's not like we had a very, you know, we didn't have a very contentious marriage. It's just that we had grown apart, we wanted different things.
10:04 It's so many things, first of all, but when we really boil it down, it comes down to number one, they mostly don't know who they are, they are just so disconnected with themselves as human beings, because they have been getting so much of themselves through their relationship.
15:00 Acceptance doesn't mean you have to be happy about where you're at. It doesn't mean you have to enjoy everything that's going on in the challenge that you're facing. But it really is just opening yourself up to. Okay. This is where I'm at right now. And how do I want to move forward from here? Who do I want to be in this situation that I've got, that I'm surrounded with right now. And without that acceptance, you just stay stuck you there's no moving forward.
25:00 I also believe that part of that self-care is being compassionate with yourself as you go through these hard times. Because the tendency for so many of us when we go through something really challenging is to just beat ourselves up
29:00 Often when we go through a divorce, or we go through something challenging, where it doesn't look like that anymore, the holidays look different. And we have this idea in our head of my family doesn't look traditional like that anymore. Now my family is broken, divorce means my family is broken, something is wrong here. And we have this idea and this story that we hold on to and we carry it around with us like that. It makes the holidays very scary. It makes them hurt.
31:26 So much of the pain that we create for ourselves comes from a comparison of the past, like what it used to look like.
35:11 I want all of your listeners to remember that their worth isn't conditional on anything that happens in their life, it isn't conditional on whether they have a successful podcast, or they are succeeding as a parent, or they have the most amazing job that they always wanted, or whether they have money in the bank or, you know, are with family on Christmas. Their worth has literally nothing to do with any of that. None of those things outside of you determine your worth and your love ability.
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IF YOU LOVED THIS EPISODE WITH KARIN NELSON YOU’LL ALSO LOVE THE CONVERSATIONS I HAD WITH:
Emotional Self-Care with Jamie Martin
Niki Svara on Self-Forgiveness
Cornelia Gilbert on Boundaries and Integrity
Through the Lens of Yoga and Mindfulness with Elizabeth Savage
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